Here we go again....

You may think it is strange that it has been so long since I have posted, but there is a reason.  Things have actually been good.  I post to vent my feelings of frustration, of being alone in this fight, of the injustice my child suffers at the hands of teachers who are supposed to care for him, but I have been blissfully carefree for weeks.  Clearly it couldn't last forever.

Just to give you an update...since my last post, things had really settled down.  I stabilized Jake's medicines.  I even added in an herbal allergy pill so that I could reduce his Claritin.  He was doing really well.  His teacher, who had been filling out daily behavior reports for him, decided to stop.  She felt he didn't need it anymore.  Don't get me wrong, there were very few perfect reports, but who am I to complain about a day where the worst he does is talk too much during circle time?!  I will take awful behavior like that anytime!!!

To put some frosting on the cake, we went to visit the developmental pediatrician.  She had not seen him for a VERY long time and was blown away by the changes.  She basically told us that at this point, it seemed to her, that we did not have to worry about an autism diagnosis anymore!  You could have knocked us over with a feather!  Of course the funny thing about all of this is that in one breath she congratulated us for "curing" him, but in the next breath she and my husband were discussing how we should experiment with taking him off the medicines.  Thanks....been there, done that, not doing it again for a loooong time!

So here we were....two perfectly relaxed parents and two wondeful boys gliding through life on our happy cloud.  Ok, that may be a little bit of an exaggeration (Jake can still be a pain in the butt...his four-year-old attitude is off the charts, and he still has, for the most part, messy bowel movements), but we were thrilled and almost stress-free.  And then we hit this week.... 

Yesterday their teacher walked the boys to the car and let me know they were both awful (strange for Jake since he had been doing so well, but even stranger for Dylan).  I quickly found out from my waaaay too honest children that Jake had asked a friend to "kill" another friend because she pushed him.  Considering that the most aggressive thing we watch in my house is Nick Jr., I knew he hadn't picked that up from home.  There is a boy in class who also taught him about shooting bad guys, so I assume the source is the same.  When Jake complained that the same boy had bitten his finger, his teacher assured me that Jacob was fine, and he was just trying to deflect attention from his bad behavior.  Really??!!  I like to think that Jacob is smart, but he is not a criminal mastermind.  I was shocked that Jacob had come to her to let her know that an aggressive classmate had hurt him, and it was my son she chose not to believe.  I emailed her in defense of my kiddo and explained that he always told the truth, even if it got him in trouble.  He doesn't understand lying yet, so if he says his friend bit him, then he bit him...end of story.

Today she again walked the boys to the car.  When I asked if it had been a better day, she just shrugged.  She said he had again been wild.  She also said that she had to keep separating him from the group because, and I quote, "the group is much calmer without him".  Wow...thank god we pay $8000 for him to not be part of the class.  And here I thought we might be wasting our money.

Anyway, I am calling the therapist back in.  I need to know whether my boy is being unfairly targeted.  Don't get me wrong, I will be the first to tell you that he can be a royal pain in the butt, but he is, by far, not the worst child in his class, and I will be damned if I am going to let her treat him like he is.

Hopefully, once I figure this out, I can get back to my happy cloud.